Supporting a Client's Self-Esteem

Research shows that self-esteem rises steadily as people move through adulthood.  It generally peaks around age 60, then starts declining around the time of retirement.  Lower self-esteem leads to stress and increases the risk of high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke and cancer.

THINGS THAT DECREASE SELF-ESTEEM

• Adult children are distant.
• Loss of significant other.
• Loss of friends (by moving or death).
• Loneliness.
• Retirement.
• Chronic Illness.
• Loss of independence.
• Loss of mobility.
• Age-related changes (hair loss, wrinkles, stiff muscles).
• Hearing or vision loss.
• Life regrets.
• Negative self-talk.

THINGS THAT INCREASE SELF-ESTEEM

• A sense of belonging (to family, friends, church or other important group).
• A feeling of purpose (knowing that you are needed).
• Knowing that you are heard and understood.
• Being accepted and respected for who you are.
• A chance to show what you are good at.
• A clean and neat appearance.
• An opportunity to learn new things.

HELP BOOST YOUR CLIENT'S SELF-ESTEEM!

• Identify each client’s strengths.  Then recognize and praise accomplishments, no matter how big or small they might seem.
• Help clients set realistic goals and then assist them to meet those goals.
• Encourage your clients to remain socially connected, whether it is with family, friends, church members, support groups or even via technology, like Skype.
• Remember that seniors who participate in creative activities, such as art, writing, crafting and music tend to have more energy, a better outlook and higher self-esteem.  Try to bring out the creativity in all your clients!
• Watch for and report signs of depression, which often goes along with low self-esteem.